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Beginners Guide
To Sex Toys
To many the
world of sex toys is an unknown place. Our
embarrassment about things sexual seems to be
particularly high when it comes to sex toys. This
means that most of us know only a little, and much
of that is based on hearsay and the opinions of a
few.
What are Sex Toys?
Sex Toys are a general term which covers everything
from the classic vibrators through to things like
penis rings, which can also have medical benefits.
Some of the basic categories are;
Non-vibrating Dildos/Dongs - Usually phallic shaped,
to be used by inserting into the vagina or anus for
stimulation. They can be made of plastic, silicone,
latex, and more 'artful' ones are now being produced
using glass and metal.
Vibrators - These are often phallic in design, but
other shapes such as curves (to hit the G-Spot) and
now even the rubber ducky is becoming very
popular. They have one or more motors which power
rotating weights causing them to 'vibrate'. The more
expensive ones have better, and more, motors, often
with variable speed settings. They vary in size from
lipstick sized to many inches in length.
Rabbit Vibrators - The "Rabbit" style of vibrator
which was popularized by the US TV show, Sex in the
City. The difference is that a rabbit vibrator has
an additional 'limb' that is designed to vibrate on
and stimulate the clitoris, whilst the main shaft is
inserted into the vagina. These can also be used by
men, for anal penetration, using the external
vibrator to tickle the scrotum. The ultimate for
Three-way stimulation, they excite the labia, G-Spot
and clitoris simultaneously for truly explosive
orgasms!
Eggs & Bullets - A type of mini vibrator, usually
with a separate battery pack. Just a very small, egg
or bullet shaped object which vibrates. Can be used
to stimulate both men and women, but usually not
recommended for internal use as most are not
waterproof. Increasingly popular as they can be put
between a couple as they are making love, increasing
stimulation without getting in the way.
Masturbators - Usually tube shaped toys for men to
insert their penis into. Popular as a way of getting
an orgasm through different feelings. Many are
realistically styled to imitate the entrance to the
vagina, anus or mouth for visual as well as physical
stimulation. Many masturbators also feature a
vibrating Egg or Bullet which is inserted into the
sleeve to provide added stimulation.
Anal Beads - Specially designed for insertion into
the anus. Standard vibrators should not be inserted
into the anus because they do not have a flange to
stop them being 'sucked up' into the back passage.
Anal beads and plugs all have a type of retainer to
prevent this. Also toys of any type should not be
used on both the anus and vagina because of the risk
from bacteria.
Choosing a sex toy for you or your partner
If you are a beginner with sex toys just remember,
we all were once! Pleasure toys are much more common
than society would have us believe. Introducing sex
toys to a relationship is as much about the
stimulation in communication it often brings, as the
physical stimulation. As with anything you should
start small and slowly and work up. This is so both
you and your partner can see what enjoyment sex toys
can bring without shock, or discomfort!
Smaller vibrators, and ones which don't try and look
overtly phallic are popular starter ones. Do
remember to use good quality, water-based lubricant
with all sex toys. It really makes a difference to
being able to use them both internally and
externally, even if there is plenty of natural
lubrication. Lube is almost a sex toy in itself as
hands and other parts feel very different when made
very slippy!
If you want a toy that is completely non-phallic
then try a waterproof sponge. Nobody can feel
threatened or sleazy with these, and leaving it
around the house isn't a problem either. Excellent
for a bath time back massage, and if things progress
it can be even more enjoyable in the more sensitive
areas.
Popular for couples looking to increase the pleasure
from intercourse are vibrating cock rings. So small
that they just fit between you to stimulate the
clitoris and feel good for the man too, without
getting in the way. Again they are very disarming
and non-threatening to the beginner. A great first
toy.
Introducing a sex toy
People often worry about this a lot before they do
it and then realize that the worry was completely
unjustified and their partner was very 'warm' to the
idea! Every situation is different and we can't hope
to give you a fool proof plan for everybody. Be
sensitive and think about your partner's feelings,
timing can be all important. Whether you wrap it up
as a present, leave it under the pillow in a black
velvet bag, or introduce it into foreplay, giving
your partner time to think about using toys will
make all the difference when it comes to putting
your toy to use.
If you have any queries about which type of toy may
suit you, email your questions to cs@erotic-toyz.com
for discreet and personal advice.
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